Emotional Intelligence

Blindsided: Disappointment and Unmet Expectations

Blindsided: Disappointment and Unmet Expectations

“Are you having a good summer honey?”

I was making small talk with my 18 year old daughter over dinner and she looked at me to see if I was serious.  I swallowed my words as soon they came out, but it was too late.  She answered my question with her own: “Are YOU having a fun summer mom?”  Touché. 

We had so many plans for this summer!!  My daughter graduated from high school and she heads off to college in August.  My son will be a college senior in the fall, and we’ve been planning on him joining us for this summer’s travels.  Depending on his job situation next year, he may or may not be able to join us, so this feels like a last hurrah for predictable family vacations.  My husband has a big birthday in August, just a couple weeks before our 25th wedding anniversary.  It’s a BIG summer with so much to celebrate!  Last summer we researched, discussed and voted on fun ways to celebrate, including multiple parties and at least one significant trip … to Europe?  … the Caribbean?  The planning is fun, and can be almost as fun as the celebration itself when you’re an Enneagram Type 7 like me and my husband!